DB Readers (After Him What Next)

So many ladies don’t know how to answer this question, while some don’t even have the slightest idea of what we are talking about. Check out the few questions below;

Do you live for your man or for you?

Are you solely dependent on him?

Is it just his name you have attached to yours?

Or do you have a name of your own?

The four questions will help you understand if you have anything after your man.

We have come across women who tell you that they live for their men, they can’t survive without them, they will die if their men go, they want to be full time house wives so that they can sit at home to take care of things. The truth is you were someone before you met your man right? It is only logical you continue to be that “someone” while with him.

Are you going to just be a Mrs without her identity? Yes he satisfies your every need but having an identity calls for extra self-worth and pride. Men may not expressly say this, but they respect women who are business and work inclined more than the full time housewives and girlfriends.

What other name do you have attached to yourself? The rich man’s wife/girlfriend, the name your parents gave to you and maybe the nickname your friends gave you. Is that all? What happened to being the woman God actually created you to be. The one who was born to help a nation, feed a country, clothe the needy, treat the sick, account for people’s money, inspire the world with her voice, draw heart-connecting artworks, sew beautiful apparels, pen down some words of wisdom for Africa etc. You want to let that woman die, simply because you don’t know what to be after saying yes to him?

Don’t let the talent in you die all in the name of being Mr A’s wife/girlfriend and really he provides pretty much everything you need so it’s pointless working and stressing yourself. You need to be something extra. You actually owe it to your creator and humanity to be something more than a wife, girlfriend or woman.

It is ok for you to say you want to build your home and relationship, but don’t do it at the expense of building yourself. Women are strong, calculative and focused. Every woman has an inner manager in her. So learn to manage your time, your home, your career, your man and kids if you have any. None of them must suffer for the other. How you will do it, only your inner can answer that.

Always remember that you need a name aside your relationship title.